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The Spectrum of Forgiveness

It’s imperative that we honor the genuine feelings that we are experiencing at any time. If someone has wronged us and we feel angry and resentful as a result, acknowledging those feelings is a fundamental step towards reconciling.

Expression should stem from authenticity. Forgiveness from an ingenuine state fails to resolve disequilibrium within oneself.   

First, it is important to realize that you have a CHOICE. Placing unnecessary pressure on yourself to forgive because the world tells us we should serves no one. We have a right to honor our own truth.

As we pick apart the various fibers, we can begin to distinguish the myriad of thoughts and feelings that comprise our feeling state. Forgiveness can be the outcome at the end of the spectrum.

We are human. We make mistakes. People who hurt are hurt themselves. They act out their unhealed trauma and emotions in inappropriate and disproportionate ways. Understanding this can help you to realize that their behavior, while unacceptable, is not about you. Recognizing their hurt gives us an opportunity to act compassionately. Compassionate and deliver us to the doorstep of forgiveness.

Studies have shown that forgiveness is associated with lower levels of depression, anxiety, and hostility. It has the potential to help reduce substance abuse; aid in higher self-esteem, and enhance life satisfaction.

It is important to discover where you sit on the spectrum and find the right balance that realistically works for you. Forgiveness should never be forced. We can, however, open our heart to healing… ourselves. When we are whole, forgiveness can feel more effortless, and we reap the benefits exponentially.

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